A REMARKABLE TREATISE TO GRIEF.

THIS IS A REMARKABLE TREATISE ON GRIEF.

Now I am not the one that wrote this particular article, the author is unknown to me but I cannot help but include it in my blog.

As I am also an old man, I can attest to the efficacy of this description of dealing with grief. Please enjoy and God Bless from the Georgia hillbilly.

 

"(C) Copyright by Victor Winebrenner"

Allowing myself to continue living.

Allowing myself to continue living.

I have been thinking a lot about my wife Claudia during this Holiday Season, beginning with Thanksgiving and continuing right through to the end of the year, and into the New Year. I have to tell you I wind up in fits of melancholy that are really hard to bear.
"No matter how bad a day feels, it is only a day.  When you go to sleep crying, you will wake up to a new day." quoted from Teryn O'Brien's blog.
Quoted from Teryn O'Brian's blog.

As Teryn stated in her article, you do wake up to a new day. Something I have done to help me get through my grief is to write about Claudia and what she meant to me. I have written about her on Social Media, on my blogs, and even done a Devotional Article for publication in my church's Pamphlet. All of this has helped me to continue to deal with my loss.

Thinking back to my youth, I can remember my grandparents and my parents talking about death. What I remember is; everybody considered death is a part of life. When your time comes to die, there won't be anything you can do to stop it. That doesn't mean we didn't suffer the grief from the loss of a friend or a relative, it just means we accept it.

The trick is to keep on keepin on, as the saying goes. So that is what I'm doing now, keepin on.

God Bless us all.


"(C) Copyright by Victor Winebrenner"

MOTIVATION: HOW DO YOU MAKE IT HAPPEN?

Motivation, how do you make it happen?

I ask this question because of the series of incidents that have taken place during the last 9 to 10 months. If you have been reading my journal, you know that I had to place my wife Claudia into hospice care in a nursing home as I could no longer take proper care of her. Then we find out that we had to go through a series of transfers of Claudia from one nursing home to another, each of which wound up further and further from home.
During all of this our daughter Elizabeth has been a real trooper in dealing with nursing homes, social security, medicaid, and medicare. When she was finally brought to rest at Signature Healthcare of Marietta, her care was stabilized to a certain degree.

In the meantime I had to abandon our home and move to the renting of a downstairs apartment in a private home all the way from the south side of Atlanta to the north side of Atlanta. If you don't think that wasn't traumatic, think again. In between all of this my 17 year old minivan's transmission crapped out, so I was without transport for almost two weeks while the transmission was overhauled.

You may wonder why I didn't junk the car and get another one, well it's simple, I don't have the money nor do I have any credit, so I have to keep what I have operational. Now that Claudia has passed away, God Rest Her Soul, I am keeping busy by going to Cardiac exercise classes at Kennestone Hospital, and I take my grandchildren to tae kwon do classes three times a week.

Getting back to motivation, how do you get your mojo back? After spending about 10 years spending most of my time caring for Claudia combined with my serious heart condition, I wasn't able to do much else except read, watch tv, dabble in making wooden toys, maintaining the house and car, cook and do light housework. I tried doing yard work but I couldn't manage it anymore.

Getting back to my question, "How do I get my mojo back?" I guess I am still looking for an answer to that question. I had seen and heard that when a person loses their loved one, it can cause a person to lose interest in continuing to live their life; I can truthfully say it is true.

At this time I still don't have an answer, but I am continuing to work on what to do.

God Bless us all.

gahillbilly

"(C) Copyright by Victor Winebrenner"